July 14, 2021: A Word For Young Single Men and Women.
As I stated this morning I am getting prayer requests from Mothers and Fathers whose children are in relationships that are not right, toxic and not holy before the Lord.
Many of these parents are beside themselves, praying, fasting, hoping and believing God to intervene. Many are afraid to confront their children with the truth.
Some believe by telling them the truth of not living together or having sex before marriage will push their child further away from God.
Many feel intimated by the spirit of religious wokism so they will be seen badly for telling their children the truth when other "christian people even ministers" don't deal with the issues or turn a blind eye to the sin that is in the house.
Sin is sin, I get it, and we all have areas we are working on for God to remove from our hearts. But there is hardening of the heart in this area for young people.
It is becoming absolutely acceptable to many Christians that they can live together without being married and play house. It has become absolutely excusable now to have sex before marriage in any and all forms.
It is now perceived by a good many number of Christians that what can I do, if they want to live together or sleep together, they are adults? They feel if they say something they will push their child further away from God.
Beloved, the truth is, THEY ARE ALREADY AWAY FROM GOD, AND THE GOSPLE MESSAGE IS TO CALL SINNERS TO REPENTANCE NOT AGREE WITH THEIR SIN AND TRY TO LOVE THEM AND ACCEPT THEM AS THEY ARE! THAT IS DELUSION AND A DOCTRINE OF DEVILS.
With that said, Single woman of God. Don't give into the lie that sleeping with your future husband is ok because you are in love and are going to get married anyway. When you do, you put your soul, the soul of your future husband at risk of going to hell for the sin of fornication that is not repented of and stopped.
You don't need to find out anything ahead of time. What is the rush? What is the need to play house before you wedding day.
If you both don't repent do you realize you are not only risking your soul, but you are laying a foundation of a future marriage with a huge crack in the foundation that will eventually destroy your marriage without repentance.
Why are His fingerprints on you before your wedding day? Why are yours on him before you wedding day? Do you realize that it destroys the very beauty of that special day?
My Father in law said, and this is in the heart of some Christian young men who lost the fear of the Lord who desire to play house with you before marriage.
He said, Henry, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free." I never forgot that. Young ladies when you give yourself to your future husband before marriage the enemy cheapens the value of your wedding day, your marriage vows of what God intended them to be.
Satan hates marriage because it is the one thing that speaks of our relationship with him. Wives submit to your husband as the church submits to Christ. Husband love your wives as Christ love you. This is great mystery of Christ and his church, that a man will leave his mother and father and 'cleave to his wife and THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE.
THAT ONENESS WAS MADE FOR YOUR WEDDING DAY, AND YOU DO NOT GET THE CHOICE TO TRY IT ON FOR SIZE TO MAKE SURE IT WORKS BEFORE YOUR WEDDING DAY.
YOUNG MEN OF GOD YOU DON'T GET TO TEST DRIVE THE CAR BEFORE YOU PURCHASE IT WITH YOUR LIFE ON THAT WEDDING DAY.
DON'T BE FOOLED. DON'T BE DECEIVED BY THE ENEMY. IT IS NOT OK WITH GOD AND NEVER WAS. IT IS NOT THE UNPARDONABLE SIN IF YOU REPENT, BUT IF YOU DON'T YOU LOSE YOUR SALVATION IS IT WORTH IT?
I wonder if you realize why God made the wedding day for the day you consummate your new life together? A woman who has relationships with her husband for the first time experience the breaking of a physical part of herself that sheds blood.
That first time being with your husband does not come without the shedding of blood. How prophetic is that. That blood shedding is to be a proof, a seal that your marriage to that husband is sealed in blood as a type of being one with the Lord by the shedding of his blood.
Now I am not writing this to judge anyone or condemn anyone that had relationships with their future spouse before marriage even if they may not gone "all....... But if you have not or will not repent of this sin before God then there are much consequences you and your family will suffer down the road.
I know many christian .young men and women and those parents and pastors that said dating is ok have gone way past their boundaries in relationships with each other leaving their fingerprints on someone else's future husband or wife, but that is not OK. THAT IS NOT OK.
That is why the Lord causes us to wait until the wedding day. Often couples are so sure they are going to be married they want to live as married before they are and play house. Yet, something goes wrong and that relationship ends and what kind of scars of left on each person?
How many wounds are left behind? How many fingerprints are left upon each other that were never supposed to be there, yet are there because you disobeyed God's word.
Beloved, all of this is forgivable if you repent to God for your sins. All of this can be washed away by the blood of Jesus and you can be as a white as snow and still have the marriage of the Lord in it's beauty if and only if you repent and sin no more.
Young men and women of God.. my mom used to say when we touched things in the grocery store.. HENRY, KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF. YOU LOOK WITH YOUR EYES NOT WITH YOUR HANDS.
I think that is excellent counsel for young men and women. You don't have the right to drive the car before you own it. Women of God, DON'T GIVE THE KEYS TO YOUR CAR TO YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND UNTIL HE SAYS I DO AND PUTS THE RING ON YOUR FINGER BEFORE GOD.
DON'T GIVE HIM THE KEYS TO THE HOUSE BEFORE HE PUTS THAT RING ON YOUR FINGER IN MARRIAGE. IF YOU GIVE HIM THAT PLACE TO YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE, THE ENEMY WILL TAKE IT AND COME INTO YOUR HOUSE TO DESTROY YOUR MARRIAGE AND IT'S HOLINESS BEFORE GOD.
INSTEAD OF LEARNING TO BECOME A MAN OF GOD, HUSBAND OF THE LORD AND FUTURE FATHER, THEY BECOME ABUSERS, SELF-SEEKERS AND DESTROYERS OF WHAT IS HOLY BEFORE GOD IF YOU LET THEM.
NO MATTER HOW MUCH THEY SAY THEY LOVE YOU, AND SAY WE ARE MARRIED BEFORE GOD NOW WITHOUT DOING IT GOD'S WAY.. THEY ARE LIARS, HYPOCRITES AND DELUSIONAL CONCERNING GOD AND HIS WAYS. THEY ARE SEDUCING YOU BY THE ENEMY TO SIN AGAINST GOD, AND YOUR OWN BODY.
A man of God who is your future husband will love you, cherish you and keep you holy because of that real love of Jesus in them for you.
The real love of Jesus is not religious platitude and pretending to want God yet want to violate the very nature of marriage by getting the milk for free, is not REAL LOVE. IN GOD'S SIGHT IT IS HATRED FOR YOU. BECAUSE IT IS LEADING YOU INTO SIN THAT WITHOUT REPENTING CAN DAMN YOUR SOUL.
HOW CAN A CHRISTIAN YOUNG MAN IN LOVE WITH GOD TELL YOU, WANT YOU TO SIN AGAINST THE GOD THEY SAY THEY LOVE? IS THAT REALLY THE ONE GOD HAS CHOSEN FOR YOU?
IS THAT THE TYPE OF MAN YOU WANT TO LEAD YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IF THEY SAY THAT IS OK WHEN IT IS NOT?
I UNDERSTAND TEMPTATION COMES AND COUPLES CAN STUMBLE AND FALL, BUT IF THEY DO AND THEIR HEART IS FOR GOD, THEY DON'T REPENT ONLY WHEN THEIR SIN IS FOUND OUT AND THEY GET CAUGHT WITH THEIR HAND IN THE COOKIE JAR.
NO, IF A TRUE MAN OF GOD SHOULD STUMBLE IN THAT KIND OF SIN AND TEMPTATION, THEIR REPENTANCE WOULD BE LIKE KING DAVID'S IN PSALM 51.
READ THE PSALM AND HEAR A BROKEN AND CONTRITE HEART FOR THE SIN OF MURDER AND ADULTERY THAT DAVID PRAYED AND CRIED OUT TO GOD. HE MEANT IT AND HE NEVER SINNED AGAINST GOD LIKE THAT AGAIN.
Do you have a David, as a future husband or a King Saul or worse a Judas? Do you have the real deal called one of God for you, or an excellent counterfeit that looks so real until you reach this place to find out it is not real?
If it is not real, and they will not repent of their sin and continue to have the cow without paying the milk, that he is not the one for you.
If he is to arrogant to see the errors of his ways and that he is leading you away from the One True God to replace our God with a god who is not holy and would approve of playing house because you will be married someday IS NOT A MAN OF GOD.
Men of God, if the woman you are to marry desires you before you wedding day and you give into that to please her instead of God, what does that make you a Ahab or a Jehu? An AHAB!
God is watching you to see if you will stand for Him even with your future wife, even to be willing to lose her, if she desires what is unholy and to cause you to sin against God.
Why would God give you a woman who will lead you astray from God just like a man could lead a woman astray from God. HE WOULD NOT DO SO.
DON'T LET YOUR NEED FOR A SPOUSE COME BEFORE YOUR NEED FOR GOD TO FILL THAT PLACE IN YOUR HEART FIRST BROTHERS AND SISTERS.
IF JESUS IS NOT EVERYTHING TO YOU AND ABLE TO FILL YOUR HEART COMPLETELY YOU WILL LOOK TO YOUR FUTURE MATE TO TAKE THE PLACE OF GOD IN YOUR HEART AS AN IDOL AND YOU WILL SERVE YOUR IDOL INSTEAD OF GOD.
WHEN THAT HAPPENS YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE DESTROYED FROM WITHIN, BECAUSE YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT GOD AND CAN NEVER FILL YOU COMPLETELY. THAT IS GOD'S PLACE ALONE.
YOUR NEED TO HAVE A SPOUSE CAN NEVER EXCEED YOUR NEED TO HAVE GOD AS YOUR ALL IN ALL.
Beloved, 95% of Christian marriage fail not because of money, or infidelity, or poor communications. Those are symptoms of a bigger problem.
95% of the Christian marriages fail because their spouse is an idol in their hearts and they look to their spouse to be God in their life and to fill and satisfy them completely for their own selfish needs.
Your future mate can never be God. Your future spouse can never be God or take the place of God. God must be first. Jesus said, "if you love your mother, father, wife, husband, more than me, YOU CAN NOT BE MY DISCIPLE.
THE FIRST COMMANDMENT IS NOT LOVE YOUR WIFE OR HUSBAND AS AN IDOL, BUT TO LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, SOUL, MIND AND STRENGTH AND TO WORSHIP NO OTHER GOD BEFORE HIM.
Your husband can never be your God. Your wife can never be your God. When you sleep together before marriage you are establishing an Idolatry relationship with that person. You have now put that person in the place of God in your heart and they will have your devotion above God and then God has to judge it.
So let me end this long post with these words of wisdom "Buy the milk and leave the cow alone. DO WHAT IS RIGHT IN GOD'S SIGHT, NOT WHAT YOU WANT, BUT LIVE TO DO WHAT GOD WANTS AND BE WILLING AND OBEDIENT TO GOD SO YOU CAN EAT THE FRUIT OF THE LAND.
STOP PLAYING HOUSE. STOP PUTTING YOUR FINGERPRINTS ON EACH OTHER, THAT MAY NOT END UP BEING YOUR SPOUCE AND YOU ARE VIOLATING SOMEONE ELSES FUTURE SPOUSE.
IF YOU HAVE FAILED AND SINNED, AND THIS POST IS CONVICTING YOU, IT IS NOT TO LATE AND YOU CAN GET A FRESH START, A DIVINE RESET IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IF YOU WILL HUMBLE YOURSELF UNDER THE MIGHTY HAND OF GOD AND TRULY REPENT WITH YOUR HEART AND SIN NO MORE.. SIN NO MORE. .NEVER TO GO BACK TO IT AND PURPOSE TO KEEP EACH OTHER HOLY BY LEAVING NO FINGER PRINTS UNTIL YOUR WEDDING DAY.
Then and only then will you have the promise God has given you for a Godly wife or husband. Then your marriage will bear good fruit and fruit that will remain.
If you have fallen, repent, let his love and forgiveness wash away your sin and remove the guilt and shame from you and may he clothe you now with white garments because you sin has been washed away and you now are as white as snow before him.
Blessed be His name.